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Dearest Sullivans,

My heart goes to you at these difficult times. May you hold yourselves together in love, healing, unity and with strength. And may Hillary’s journey back to her Home be guided by light and love.

Blessings abound,
Sat Dharm Singh

Comment by Sat Dharm — May 23, 2008 #
Dear Sullivan family,

My heartfelt prayers go out to you during this time of deep saddness and loss. To loose a mother, is to loose the world. I understand after loosing my mom to cancer in 2006. She is always in your heart.

Many blessings and peace to you all.

Comment by Naseem — May 23, 2008 #
Wahe Guru Ji Ka Khalsa, Siri Wahe Guru Ji Ki Fateh…Sat Nam,

I pray that Guru Ram Das receive Hilary’s soul in His Lap and that He bless the family and friends left behind, with the compassion and understanding that all is happening in His Will.

My prayers, love and thoughts are with the family and friends.

While I did not know Hilary well at all and only had the passing priviledge of meeting her at Madeline (Bachan Kaur) and Rama’s wedding, I feel the loss of this great soul on this earth and pray that we are all given solace in knowing that she is now truly Home at the Lotus Feet of Guru Ram Das.

Wahe Guru Ji Ka Khalsa, Siri Wahe Guru Ji Ki Fateh…Sat Nam,

Jasvinder Singh “Jazzy” Aul

Comment by Jasvinder Singh Aul — May 23, 2008 #
Sending much love, healing, and prayers to the entire Sullivan family. Know that Hilary was loved by many and will live on in your hearts forever.

Many blessings, Karta Kaur (Kent, WA, USA)

Comment by Karta Kaur — May 23, 2008 #
Our prayers are with you all as you dwell in the radiance of your mother’s love and the cherished memories you have of her. May you feel held and sustained by the love of the sangat and your family, and may your spirits be strong. Her greatest legacy is lived through each of you as you walk this earth with grace, beauty, and love in her honour. Akal. Akal. Akal.

Comment by Suckbinder and Rajdeep — May 23, 2008 #
To the Sullivans,

I am sick about your loss. I’m so very sorry and will be thinking about you much in the days to come.

Much love,

jordan marr

Comment by Jordan — May 23, 2008 #
Hilary was such an inspiration for me. Her infectious laugh took over at knitting circles. One of my favourite memories of her is when she and Brian returned from Hong Kong, and she was a little tipsy from wine and lack of sleep,and regaled us with great stories of the trip.

I will dearly miss this strong, beautiful, wonderful woman. She stays with us in the beautiful children she raised – i am so blessed to have Bart, Mada, Clare and Amelia in my life.
Hilary, i look forward to knitting with you again.
love Anicka

Comment by Anicka Quin — May 23, 2008 #
I’m so sorry – I prayed for her safe return to you. May you receive the strength and guidance you need to get you all through this time.

Blessings

Siri Lakshmi

Comment by Siri Lakshmi — May 24, 2008 #
Dear Bhachan Kaur and Family,

We are so sorry for your loss.
May your mothers soul be in peace with God,
and may you all be healed and comforted in this time of grief.

Love, prayers and blessings to you all from
Dharam Singh and SiriGuruDev Kaur

Comment by Siri Guru Dev Kaur — May 24, 2008 #
Be Strong and Brave.
All of us are thinking of the Sullivans right now.

love ned

Comment by Ned — May 24, 2008 #
Family, All the jungles and the seas, sunsets, breeze, oceans, forests, waterfalls and the creatures of the sky, land and water are at your feet to serve your love and your deeply feeling hearts. May you feel surrounded by your Creator’s care and held for ever in the embrace of the Angels.

We feel you, hold you and feel with you.

Hillary, You are loved and forever are a grace and gift to the world~ Live on! I will always remember Your beauty in the family in whom You live on. All the blessings you can possible receive in your heart~

LOVE FOREVER~

Comment by Roxxanne Hansmukh — May 24, 2008 #
We send you our love and prayers as you let go of your beloved Hilary,

We wish for all of your hearts to be filled to overflowing with love and peace,

Much love, Jot Prakash and Trudy

Comment by Jot Prakash & Trudy — May 24, 2008 #
I have been checking this website, hoping for a miracle and am so, so devastated to learn that there will not be one.
My love is with you all, and I will write more later. I just wanted to let you know that she and you are in my heart.
Love, Judy

Comment by Judy Vartan — May 24, 2008 #
We are without words… I had an email from Hilary recently with talk of maybe crossing paths on the island this summer. Whenever I get a note from her I am instantly transported to the summers from years ago when it seems your family and ours often “crossed” at our Wolfe Island compound. Hilary’s frank, intuitive approach to things and her disarming sense of humor always helped me “lighten up”. She is integral to many, many warm memories and rich family times in the Scanlon family “history”. I am heartbroken.
KNow that we love you all very much and we hold you close in prayers for grace, faith, gratitude for the gift that she will always be and soothing for your sorrow.

With much love,
Jane Scanlon and family

Comment by Jane Scanlon and family — May 24, 2008 #
To the Sullivan Family,

I’m so sorry to hear about your loss. Even though I didn’t know Hilary I am shedding tears at her departure from this world.

I’m sending you all my love and prayers at this time of deep deep sadness. May Guru Ram Das support you at this time.

Akal, Akal, Akal Hilary. You are home now.

Love and Blessings,
Siri Anand.

Comment by Siri Anand Kaur — May 24, 2008 #
My thoughts and love are with all of you.

Comment by Jeff Friedrich — May 24, 2008 #
My deepest condolences to the Sullivan family and my prayers are with you. May the spirit of the sangath help you through this time. Waheguru.

Comment by Harminder Bindy Kaur — May 24, 2008 #
I love you Brian, Bachan, Har Kirat, Amelia and Clare. All of you have blessed my life with a beautiful imprint of joy and sweetness. I feel honored to have known the kind and tender mother of your family, to have felt her hugs and experienced her joy for her children.
We (GBS and I) wish all of you the love and purity of soul on your journey together down the road ahead. It seems long and steep at first but your hearts will light the way for each other.

infinite love and blessings,
Siri Om
and Guru Beant

Comment by lisamarietilson — May 24, 2008 #
Dear Sullivan Family,

Hilary and I met through Family Constellation. It was always a gift meeting this warmhearted woman in a workshop, taking a walk arm in arm during a break and diving into a deep conversation or joking around.
A couple times I enjoyed her and Brian’s hospitality at your home in Vancouver, when i needed a place to stay. I remember the great hot chocolat with rum and marshmallows she made for me on a cold November day.

Hilary, i felt so happy for you, when you took the step to facilitate your own constellation workshops!
You meant and mean a lot to me, even though we weren’t close friends and you might have not known that I often thought of you with a warm feeling in my heart.

I wish you, the Sullivan Family love, healing and togetherness

Verena, Bow, WA

Comment by Verena — May 24, 2008 #
My heart is with you, dear Bachan and family. I know you understand well how narrow is the space between birth and death, and between joy and sorrow. Let the trust to unknown release your burden so you can embrace Hilary’s ethernal presence and raise in divinity of boundless love. Blessings to her departed soul and to all of you.
With love,
Guru Bhai Kaur

Comment by Guru Bhai Kaur — May 24, 2008 #
Dear Brian, Bart, Bachan, Rama, Amelia, Clare, Gus (and Hilary)

We hold you all in our hearts, deeply.

Hilary thank you for all the beauty and love you created in your family and healing you selflesly offered to people. (I will always remember my first Constelation with you.)
May you be a sky dancer of light,
at peace and free.
Although we did not know you well, being a mother to those we know make us bow to your feet.

Much meta to you all.

Comment by Nirvair/Lidija and Sara, Vancouver BC — May 24, 2008 #
Dear Sullivans,
My thought and caring travel around the world and are with you.
Love,
Lina
(The Netherlands)

Comment by Lina — May 24, 2008 #
To the Sullivans:

I am so sorry for your loss, and pray that you will be given the strength and faith to see you through these days that follow. May pain and loss be replaced in time by a realization of the love, light and wonder of the days and life you have been blessed to live together. Light, love and magic shines through your family, and that is the beautiful legacy Hilary leaves behind. May she be at peace, wrapped in the loving arms of her Creator. I’m sure she looks down at you all with love and tenderness at this time. May we all be blessed to see with the eyes of Infinity. I will always remember Brian and Hilary dancing at Bachan and Rama’s wedding to the tune of “Morning Has Broken”, their own wedding song. So much love, joy and the freedom to be, which filtered down to their children, leaving a beautiful legacy on this earth.

Blessings and peace always,

Bhagwant Kaur and family.

Comment by Bhagwant Kaur — May 24, 2008 #
Dear Sullivan Family,

Satnam. You are in our prayers, and we send you our love.

I did not know Hilary, but I know and love 2 of her children! These words keep running through my mind and heart, “Blessed is the woman who gives birth to saints, she is a holy woman, a sacred woman, she too is a saint.”

I know Bachan and Harkirat, and I find them to be inspiring leaders. Blessed is the woman, who along with God (and her dear husband) created these beautiful beings. Her life, and the leadership of her children, makes this earth more peaceful and pure a place.

Love Blessings and Peace to the Sullivan family.

Tej Kaur

Comment by Tej Kaur — May 24, 2008 #
Dear Bachan and Sullivan Family,
May you feel the comfort of all of us who knew and did not know Hillary well. Blessings of peace be always with you.
In sympathy and affection

Comment by Siri Tapa Kaur (Norine) — May 24, 2008 #
Dear Bart and family, Dave and I are deeply saddened to hear about your Mum. We never met her but through Nicki always heard what a wonderful woman she was and what a wonderful family you have. We send you all our love and thoughts over the next days, weeks and months.
Dave and Ethel Mosley, Oakville, ON

Comment by Dave and Ethel Mosley, — May 24, 2008 #
My family and I are thinking of you all constantly and we send our love. Hillary’s beautiful spirit shines in all of you, as everyone can see. Please let me know what we can do and how we can help to support you in any way. I love you all very much and I’m glad Bart and Amelia will be with you soon.

Peace and Love,

Jasmine xxoo

Comment by Jasmine Wi-Afedzi — May 24, 2008 #
Numb with shock and sorrow. May Jesus gather each of you in His arms of tender love. Know that thoughts and prayers for each one of you fill our many days ahead….We weep. Gail Brewer

Comment by Gail — May 24, 2008 #
Dear Sullivans,

We are so sorry to hear of your loss. As we are trying to find words to provide some comfort, just know that you are surrounded by so many people who have been touched by all members of your family in so many special ways and we will always be with you, whether in times of happiness or of deep sorrow. we are all with you and we pray for strength and peace for each of you.

Our deepest condolences from the Osutei and Morris families.

Love to you all.

Comment by justin and naki — May 24, 2008 #
Dear Bachan and Bart,

My heart aches for you and your family. You are in my thoughts and prayers. May Waheguru give you strength and solace and watch over your mother on her journey back home to Waheguru.

Love

Sukhvinder Vinning

From page 55 in the Guru Granth Sahib:

Without You Waheguru, there is only pitch darkness.
Without Your Shabad, understanding is not obtained.
Through Your Teachings, I shall be enlightened, and remain absorbed in Your Love.
Death does not reach me as my light merges with Your Light. ||6||

You Waheguru are my Best Friend and are All-knowing.
You are the One who unites me with Yourself.
Through the Word of Your Shabad, I praise You.
You have no end or limitation.
Death does not reach that place where the Infinite Word of Your Shabad resounds. ||7||

By Your command, all are created.
By Your command, actions are performed.
By Your command, we are all subject to death.
By Your command, we merge in Truth.
I, Nanak, must remember, whatever pleases Your Will comes to pass. Nothing is in the hands of us beings. ||8||4||

Comment by Sukhvinder Vinning — May 24, 2008 #
Dearest Harkirat, Bachan and Rama,

I am singing my heart out with prayers for you and your family. May you be surrounded by healing light, kind words, and prayerful thoughts. Many blessings. Akal, akal, akal.

Andrina Devmurti Kaur

Comment by Andrina — May 24, 2008 #
Dear Brian and family,
My deepest condolences on your loss.

K Ward, Vancouver

Comment by Karen Ward — May 24, 2008 #
To the Sullivan Family:

I’m so sorry for your loss. Hilary and I used to have great conversations at UBC gatherings, and I often looked forward to seeing her there. During one particularly boisterous, I remember Brian once saying we made a “great pair of dramatics”. That’s how I’ll always remember her – dramatic, boisterous, fun, and incredibly sweet.

My sincerest condolences. I’m so terribly sorry.
Kevin K.

Comment by Kevin Keystone — May 24, 2008 #
Dearest Bachan Kaur and family.

I know your hearts are broken right now at the loss of your beautiful Mama, Wife and Nana, May her spirit live on forever in your hearts and those of your children. With love, prayers and support from our sangat.

Guru Nam Kaur

Comment by Guru Nam Kaur — May 24, 2008 #
Dear Sullivan Family,

My prayers have been daily for Hilary and all of you – they will continue to be so. I am so sorry for your loss and I pray for you to find peace, comfort and healing with each other and your relationships to the Divine. Hilary is a great, infinite soul on a journey that is beyond our understanding. I will pray for her journey Home to be with ease, complete self-love and compassion.

Alix Fateh Mathias (yoga friend of Bachan and Harkirat)

Comment by Alix Fateh Mathias — May 24, 2008 #
If only our combined shock & grief could be powerful enough to ease your pain. I cannot possibly put Hilary in the past tense. She is light, and love, and joy, and strength and will forever be in our hearts.
John and I send all of our love,

Sara Stassen.

Comment by sara stassen — May 24, 2008 #
To The Sullivans

May you be comforted by memories of love you have shared. My family and I will keep you in our prayers. Peace be with you.

Larry Roper

Comment by Larry Roper — May 24, 2008 #
I didn’t know Hilary that well. I knew her son. But I have attended knitting circles with her and functions at her home. I have met her husband and two of her daughters. So what I do know is that she was the matriarch of an amazing family. I envied the way they actually liked each other(!) They were intelligent, worldly, kind, spiritual… and I’m sure Hilary was responsible for their amazing spirits. Hilary was the kind of woman who had no problem sitting on the floor with a bunch of women attempting to knit while eating popcorn and watching Buffy. She had a beautiful smile.
I am very saddened by the events of the last couple of weeks. Sullivan family, I wish you peace and am thinking of all of you. I know that joy will come again one day. Hilary wouldn’t have it any other way.

Comment by Adrienne — May 24, 2008 #
To our dear friends the Sullivans,
May the spirit soar and bring peace to the Sullivan family at this moment of disheartenment and loss as Hilary separates herself and reaches for her star of tranquility.

Words fall short in communicating our sadness in the loss of a wonderful friend. We value the times we shared together and the rich memories that our reflections evoke. The smile, the endless curiosity, the quest, ever present, engaging, open, always spirited and spiritual. A seeker, tireless in her search for meaning and for inner peace, Hilary trusted her own spirit and chose to rest in a sacred space. Peace and love be with all, at this time of parting.

Valerie and Paul

Comment by Valerie and Paul Gilmor — May 24, 2008 #
To the Sullivan Family,

My thoughts and prayers are with you during this very difficult time. As a physiotherapist, Hillary was one of the first to show me around and welcome me VGH and Vancouver. Since then, she had always found a way to help me and make me feel at home. She had such a great zeal for life and a love for people and the diversity that comes with it. She was a great physiotherapist and fantastic person that I will never forget.

My best and warmest thoughts are with you through this difficult journey.

Tasleem

Comment by Tas — May 24, 2008 #
I met Hilary in Seattle a few years ago at a Family Constellation training. She was so kind and warm to me. I am so sad to hear of her death. My heartfelt sympathy goes to her family.

Yaari, Vancouver

Comment by Yaari — May 24, 2008 #
My dear Sullivans,
I’m so sorry for your loss. Hilary was an amazing person to be around. She had such a great laugh, a warm smile, and kind, sweet words. I have so many cherished memories from mornings, noons, and evenings around your home, eating family dinners, having dance parties, or just sitting around having tea and talking for hours. Hilary will always be a great part of those memories. Thank you for sharing her with us. I’m so glad to know that the rest of the family will be home soon so that you can heal together and wish I could be there to heat some tea water or give a hug. Hilary was taken from us much too soon but I feel so blessed to have the memories of her that I have and to have in my life the great gift that she gave to the world in her family! Love you all and thinking of you often,
Annie

Comment by Annie Thompson — May 25, 2008 #
Bachan Kaur, Rama Singh and Family:
I had been praying for Hilary’s safe return to you. It was with sadness that I chanted Akal for her. May you have the support, love and peace you require through this difficult time. My thoughts are with you.
Kamaljit Kaur Bates (Edmonton, Alberta)

Comment by Kamaljit Kaur Bates — May 25, 2008 #
Dear Sullivan family

May Hilary rest in peace.

Dear Brian and the kids, may you find comfort during this deep pain of loss knowing that Hilary contributed so much through her being and many of us were benefited cos of this gift of hers.
Many times she had mentioned how blessed she is to have such a great family when she would share during our constellation weekends.
It was an honor to get the chance to meet all of you during a workshop in Canada several years back and to experience this blessing she spoke of.

I am expecially grateful to Hilary who contacted me while i was in Singapore and gave me Dietrich Weth’s hospital contact number in Germany and in this way i was able to say good bye to my dear friend Dietrich Weth, also a very beloved family constellation facilitator before he died only a few days later after the call. Also very grateful to Hilary and family for housing Dietrich Weth while he was in Canada.

Dear dear Hilary, Bon Voyage dear one, Bon Voyage!

Now you are an Angel for your family and beyond i am sure )

love & namaste
Anutosh, Seattle

Comment by Anutosh — May 25, 2008 #
She will go on eternally. Wahe-Guru

Comment by Beccie Puneet Randhawa — May 25, 2008 #
Brian, Clare, Amelia, Bart and Mada,

It’s hard to find words to express how sorry I feel for you.
Your family welcomed me when I was in Canada and I keep a wonderful souvenir of the time shared with you. I’m grateful that I could meet your wife and mother, to see how great she was.
I think a lot about you these days.

Much love to the five of you.
Ysaline

Comment by ysaline — May 25, 2008 #
To The Sullivan Family;
I am writing this note with a very heavy heart.
I was one of Hilary’s classmates in Physiotherapy. The Class of “76″! Hilary was our role model and we utilized her wisdom a great deal. I loved Hilary’s gentle manner, her beautiful laugh and her sense of peace.
We have continued to love and respect Hilary over the years. She was rarely with us physically due to the miles but always there in spirit. We also managed to keep up on the Sullivan family news. We will truly miss our “sister.”
Eva will be our representative and our wonderful spokes lady. I hope that some of our strength from Ontario may help each one of you during this very difficult time. With great respect Debbie

Comment by Debbie Sakhuja — May 25, 2008 #
Dear Sullivan Family,

I am so sorry for the loss of your mom and wife. My thoughts and love are with you all.

Marijke (Belgium)

Comment by Marijke — May 25, 2008 #
Dear sweet Sullivan Family,

The first time I met Hilary, I knew immediately where Bachan got her sweetness from. Hilary had an angelic quality and a laugh that was child like in it’s pure joy.
I want to thank each member of your family for sharing your grief with all of us so openly and truthfully- it has allowed in me a place of deep DEEP appreciation of life and all of the sweetness in it. What a gift Hilary has left for us all. May she find peace. And may your family find peace and solace in the embrace of all of those who love you and are surrounding you with it.

Bir Kaur

Comment by Bir Kaur — May 25, 2008 #
Dear Sullivan Family,

My deepest condolences on the loss of such an incredible loved one. My thoughts are with you.

Behshad

Comment by Behshad Darvish — May 25, 2008 #
My deepest sympathy goes out to you. I am so pleased to have met Hilary, immediately feeling kindness, strength, and warmth was overwhelming. I know she will be close by always, much love and thoughts are with the Sullivans.
Brian

Comment by Brian Wallace — May 25, 2008 #
Dearest Sullivan Family…
Our hearts are filled with sadness for your loss. We send you prayers of peace and healing during this time. It takes my breath away to imagine what this time has been like for you all. May you come together and continue to strengthen your bonds as a family and remember Hillary with light love and laughter.
Love
Qurban, Erin & Santosha

Comment by Qurban, Erin & Santosha — May 25, 2008 #
My heart is with you during this time of loss for your family, and for the human family.
Catherine (Vancouver)

Comment by Catherine Bargen — May 25, 2008 #
My heart breaks at the departure of such a lively and connected soul as Hilary. We shared many constellation learnings and insights together over the years, and I am especially fond of memories of her at the Learning Circle retreat at Mt. Rainier three years ago this month.

My heart goes out to all her family and friends in this time of loss.

We all love you very much, Hilary.

Bryan Brewer (Whidbey Island, WA)

Comment by Bryan Brewer — May 25, 2008 #
from Paramahansa Yogananda:

“O Heavenly Father, O Cosmic Mother,
O Master Mine, O Friend Divine,
I came alone, I go alone;
With Thee alone, with Thee alone.
With Thee alone, with Thee alone.

Oh, Thou didst make a home for me
Of living cells, a home for me.
This home of mine is home of Thine;
Thy life did make this home;
Thy strength did make this home.
Thy home is perfect, Thy home is perfect.

I am Thy child, Thou art my Father;
We both do dwell, we both do dwell
In temple same,
In this temple of cells,
Oh, in this temple of cells.
Thou art always here,
Oh, on my throbbing altar near.

I wear away, I went away;
With darkness to play, with error to play;
A truant child, I went away.
Home I came in shadows dark,
Home I came with matter’s muddy mark.
Thou art near; I cannot see.
Thy home is perfect; I cannot see.
I am blind; Thy light is there.

‘Tis my fault I cannot see.
Oh, ’tis my fault that I cannot see.
Beneath the darkness line
Thy light doth shine;
Thy light doth shine.

Together, light and darkness
Cannot stay, cannot stay.
Together, wisdom, ignorance,
Cannot stay, cannot stay.
Conjure away, oh, lure away,
The darkness away,
My darkness away.

My body cells are made of light,
My fleshly cells are made of Thee.
They are perfect, for Thou art perfect;
They are healthy, for Thou art Health;
They are Spirit, for Thou art Spirit;
They are immortal, for Thou art Life.”

love,
Evelyn

Comment by Evelyn Ayre — May 25, 2008 #
Dear Brian, Bart, Amelia, Madda and Claire,

Our hearts go out to you at this very painful time. Hilary was such a joy to know and so easy to love. She is now in Heaven with a multitude of other loved ones looking down and watching over all of us.
You are all in our hearts, thoughts and prayers.

Mary & Jim Riley and family

Comment by Mary and Jim Riley — May 25, 2008 #
Hilary was no ordinary friend, no ordinary Mom, no ordinary woman. I knew she was no ordinary Mom the week that Bart decided to get a bright blue Mohawk (how old were you Bart 10, 12?) and over one of our chatty lunch dates I ask Hilary what she though of her son’s new style. Without thinking much at all she said, “It’s such a beautiful blue when he stands on the pool deck and the sun shines through it.” …Hilary was no ordinary Mom and it was you lovely Sullivan kids who made me think to have my own children. It was the plays you put on in the backyard. (Remember Sir Guwain and “What Women Really Want” ?. Ah, feminist backyard drama from the tweens and teens; only at the Sullivan house.) It was Bart DJing in the basement, Amelia and Madda hanging out in the kitchen and Clare upstairs with the rats. Your Mom and I laughed so hard about the time I baby sat the rats for you Clare and one got loose in my house and turned my entire couch into a rat’s nest – foam rubber bits everywhere, had to buy a new couch. I made Hilary promise not to tell you because it was my fault and I didn’t want you to feel bad, you were only 10 after all.
We laughed a lot about all your antics and we chatted when she was worried about you as you faced the challenges of growing up. But always the Sullivan family made me think to have kids and help them to grow into unique and happy beings as Brian and Hilary have done for you. So now I have 3 kids –though Hilary always insisted that 4 was a better number– and they put on plays in the backyard and they sing and draw and laugh and fight and play jokes and very often they remind me of all of you. (But for obvious reasons, they are not allowed pet rats. )
I’ve learned so much from all of you and Hilary always kept me updated. She was my friend, my colleague, my confidant. I can’t believe she’s gone but her spirit will always remain with me, especially if one of my kids comes home with a blue Mohawk because I know exactly what I will say.
Love you all.
Lynne (Guelph)

Comment by Lynne Mitchell — May 25, 2008 #
Oh Hilary, the pain of not being with you again on this earth is so deep. You are the spirit of mother and sister to me, a teacher and healer to your very core. You showed me that courage is embracing and challenging the journey in spite of fears and insecurities. And your awesome laugh when you really let loose! You are the founding member of the “Sisterhood”; four strong women who married into this large and strong family and who have found such joy and laughter in this bond. Our time in Washington, DC last year was so good and it was so healing for me to be with you. I love you sister. I will carry your beautiful and strong spirit, your energy and passion for life with me until we meet again.
Heather

Comment by Heather Sullivan — May 26, 2008 #
I will always remember Hilary’s warm heart, and spontaneous hugs…so wise and accepting. My life has been blessed just to know her.
my heart’s warm embrace to all of you,
Laura
(Bellingham)

Comment by Laura Widman — May 26, 2008 #
I was saddened and shocked to receive the news about Hillary. We exchanged some emails at the beginning of May and I was certain we would correspond and see each other many times more.

Hillary and I met last year in Germany and again in North Carolina in October. We were fortunate to watch the Red Sox in the playoffs in a great dive bar in Asheville. The friends we were with couldn’t care less about baseball or the Sox, so we arranged the chairs so we could keep a conversation going and still watch every pitch.

Hillary was a delight. She was able to enjoy the simple pleasures of life and connect to the deeper pleasures and pains in a profound and heartful way.

I will miss her. Her family has my love.

Dan

Comment by Dan Booth Cohen — May 26, 2008 #
Hilary obviously touched many people’s lives in very deep ways – this is a legacy that reaches far beyond anything artificial or temporal. Hilary’s life was meaningful in the resonance she left behind her, in the hearts and spirits of those of us who got the opportunity to love her. I continue to pray that God will protect all of you, and grant you the peace that surpasses all understanding.

Mary Pinniger

Comment by Mary Pinniger — May 26, 2008 #
Dear Sullivan Family,

I went to school with Hilary back in the 70’s. I was deeply saddened to hear of her passing. Hilary was an individual that once you had met her, you never forgot her. She had an infectious sense of humour and such a warm comforting spirit. Memories of her will remain with me always. She certainly has impacted people and imprinted special moments in time for many.
May our prayers and thoughts give you some comfort in this time of loss.

Comment by Jacquie Bryce — May 26, 2008 #
Dear Bachan, Harkirat, Rama, and Sullivan family,

Hillary’s transformation has opened a doorway in to Mystery for me, of appreciating so much more how much I have, how much We have in this beautiful life.

I was blessed to meet Hillary, and I remember love, laughter, generosity of spirit, and warm hugs. I know Bachan and Bart – my heart expands just feeling into the rock bottom depths to which your Mom has called you. Even now she speaks and nourishes you to greater life.

Your experience is personal. I pray that you give meaning to this event in a way that honours your mother and the Creator and brings comfort to you.

From the comments here, I see that Hillary was always giving. She certainly keeps giving through Bachan and Bart. And I feel grateful for her last gift, this doorway into Mystery, Death, and Love.

Darrin Downey

Comment by Darrin — May 26, 2008 #
Brian and Family – my deepest sympathy for your loss.

Graham Senft

Comment by Graham Senft — May 26, 2008 #
Dear Sullivan family,
I was shocked and saddened to hear the news; I still am. I’ll remember Hilary as a funny, delightful, and kind woman. I’m so sorry for your loss. My thoughts and best wishes are with you. Take care.
Tim

Comment by Tim Louman-Gardiner — May 26, 2008 #
Dear Brian and kids,

I have no adequate words to express my heartfelt sorrow over Hilary’s death and my deep compassion for your loss. There is so much about her I love to remember but with every word of appreciation for Hilary’s warm and loving being there are hundreds more left unsaid.

I met Hilary less than four years ago (it seems a lot longer) when she joined my first training program for Family Constellations and Energy Awareness in Seattle. Through the loving bond we shared within this Learning Circle, followed by many shared experiences in workshops and conferences, I came to regard her as a dear friend, a valued colleague and a powerful force in the constellations field.

Hilary supported me as a friend when I lost my beloved nearly three years ago (under circumstances similar to her own passing), and as a colleague by inviting me to Vancouver for a workshop a little over a year ago.
I am so very glad I had this opportunity to experience Hilary in her own surroundings, at the center of her own universe. In her uncomplicated, straight forward way she made me feel so welcome at your house, more like a temporary household member who belongs than a guest. I also appreciated getting to know you a little better, Brian, and to meet some of the Sullivan kids.

I am full of compassion for your grief and the many other emotions that go along with it. I wish you the courage to feel it all and the strength to keep your hearts open through this process.
Please know that I am always available if you need someone to talk to.

Dear Hilary- you have transcended space and time and I look forward to seeing you again in a different dimension. You are with the ancestors now and with Rob and Dietrich. I have been blessed to know you.

With love to all of Hilary’s family,

Brigitte Sztab

Comment by Brigitte Sztab — May 26, 2008 #
Dear Brian and Family

I was in shock when I received the news yesterday and I just cannot fathom what you have been through these past days. Hillary was such a warm and inviting person who made you feel very special whenever you were in her presence. Even though years passed between visits at the cottage on Wolfe Island, the conversations simply picked up from where they left off, as if we had been together the night before. Such a remarkable person! You are all in my thoughts and prayers at this time…we know she is now at Peace.

Comment by Jim Corrigan — May 26, 2008 #
Dear Brian and Family!
We are so sorry for your loss and would like to express our deepest sympathies! May our prayers and thoughts give you some comfort during this very difficult time!
Blessings of peace be always with you.
In sympathy and affection

Achim Meyer auf der Heyde, DSW

Danja Oste, DSW

Comment by Danja Oste — May 26, 2008 #
I have met Hilary in Spirit and in the Light of her sweet, beautiful Bachan. Her spirit and light lives on, formless, and free. May the presence of the Divine continue to walk with you and at times carry you through your grieving.
May Peace be in your hearts.

Comment by marney Coulter — May 26, 2008 #
Dear Brian and family
How to find the words…. You are on my heart in this time of grieving the loss of your dear Hilary. I wish you deep comfort in the love of family and friends, and strength in coming days. Namaste, blessed be.
Caroline Neufeld

Comment by Caroline Neufeld — May 26, 2008 #
Dearest Sullivans,

How blessed we have been to share something of Hillary’s life.

Hillary was my role model of a wise and inspired leader in the constellation community. Her generosity of spirit has nurtured our consciousness here in western Canada, making the transcendence of narrow personal interest so much easier.

Hillary fed and protected the heart of the whole of the constellation field, by her gentle leadership and modeling of what wholeness looks like on the ground. We are all beneficiaries of her legacy.

Thank you for providing such a beautiful way to share in the grieving of her loss to us in the physical world.

Comment by Barbara Phillips — May 26, 2008 #
To the Sullivan Family
Your extended family here in Guelph is mourning with you for the loss of Hilary. We remember fondly the full Sullivan family, and the impact you had at Guelph. We struggle to find words to say to bring you comfort at this sad time. Please know that while we can’t be there in person, we are collectively sending you are thoughts, our prayers and our love.

Comment by Brenda Whiteside — May 26, 2008 #
Dear Brian and Family,
We are so schocked and deeply saddened by your loss of Hilary . We have many fond memories of shared time on the dock on Wolfe Island over the years. Hilary was part of our esteemed group “The Outlaws”, those in the group know who they are and the stories we have shared!! We shall miss her and our thoughts and prayers are with you all.
Much love, Eddie, Jackie, Kaitlin and Justine Deming

Comment by Eddie, Jackie , Kaitlin and Justine Deming — May 26, 2008 #
Dear Harkirat and family
My deepest heartfelt message about the the passing on of your mom, who I have come to understand was like a “mom” or grandma to all. I am sorry that I never had a chance to meet this wonderful soul whose heart so soft. I’d like to see this as an opportunity for us to really reach out to one another in times of grief and joy and to make the time to reach out even if just a phone call or a kind thought.
Bless her soul and may she soar in the heavens. Our prayers are with her.

Blkessings to all,
Azmina

Comment by Azmina Kassam — May 26, 2008 #
To the Sullivan family,
Although I only had the pleasure of meeting Hilary once, I was instantly drawn to her. She exuded a kindness that I’ve seen reflected in those of you I’ve been lucky to meet. My heart goes out to you all.
With love,
Daniela

Comment by Daniela Coray — May 26, 2008 #
Dear Brian; Kit and i send our hartfelt sympathy to you and your family. We wish we were closer to offer more support. We are grateful that we had the opportunity to spend time with Hillary last July. I loved talking with her about her work and the children. We pray that your many wonderful memories of Hillary will give you some comfort as you cope with the grief of losing her. Thank you for creating this blog. We will check in with you again soon. Much love…

Comment by Saunie & Kit Taylor — May 26, 2008 #
I hope to be as warmly-considered, treasured, and loved in this life as it sounds like your mother was. The written stories shared by Hilary’s family and friends, from throughout her life, are so heart-warming and deep. Many thoughts are with you all from the Okanagan.

Comment by Kelly Ross — May 26, 2008 #
God Bless you all at this time. Please know that my prayers are with you. It is no consolation but at least you know her spirit is surrounded by love, healing & joy. Her spirit lives on in all she’s touched & loved, & then those people she’s touched through you all. Like me. Sat Nam

Comment by Lakhmi Chand Khalsa — May 26, 2008 #
Dear Brian and family,
You were such a wonderful friend and mentor to me, Brian. My thoughts and prayers are with you now. Deepest sympathies to you and your family. Blessings, Bob

Comment by Bob Crawford — May 26, 2008 #
Brian and family:
Warm thoughts, heartfelt prayers, and deep wishes for solace and comfort as you mourn this heartbreaking loss and celebrate a wonderful life well lived.

With much love, Laurie. xoxo

Comment by Laurie Schnarr — May 26, 2008 #
Dear Brian & Family,

I just wanted to pass along my sincerest regards. I never had the pleasure of meeting Hilary, but simply reading about the positive impact that she’s had on people’s lives has been inspirational. My heart is with you and your family during this time.

- Conor

Comment by Conor Topley — May 26, 2008 #
Dear Brian and family,
Many thoughts and prayers for you all during this difficult time.
Sophia

Comment by Sophia Haque — May 26, 2008 #
Dearest Clare and family,

The woman who helped shape a family such as yours is as formidable as they come. To spend time with you is to feel this unmistakable capacity for love, a love that transcends conventional barriers. I am so grateful for the role she has played and will forever continue to play in creating that magic.

Hilary, may your qualities live on through those you’ve so deeply loved.

best wishes,
Anna.

Comment by Anna Richards — May 26, 2008 #
Dear Brian, Bart, Madeline, Amelia, and Clare,

As a sister family constellation facilitator and friend, I am filled with enormous gratitude for Hilary’s presence in my life. In the midst of heartache and shockfilled grief, the truth of Hilary remains: she is brilliant.

Hilary deeply valued learning and community. She has been instrumental in nurturing awareness of family constellations in B.C. and the Pacific Northwest. Early on she saw the value in establishing the website, http://www.familyconstellations.ca, as way to support new practitioners and collaboration within this complex, emerging field.

In speaking with several colleagues who knew Hilary, the importance of recognizing her place in our field grows stronger. I offer to host a gathering in her honor for those in the constellation community; details TBA. Please contact me at famconwest@yahoo.com if you’d like to help plan or stay informed of this gathering.

While in the forest yesterday, an owl appeared above me. May her freedom, wisdom, and truthtelling be with Hilary, her family, and our whole human family.

With deep gratitude for Hilary,
Lisa Iversen
Bellingham, WA

Comment by Lisa Iversen — May 26, 2008 #
Brian and family, I only had the pleasure of meeting Hilary two or three times but she struck me as a kind soul and a lovely woman. When I heard the news on Friday my thoughts went out to you all and my prayers are with you.

-Spencer

Comment by Spencer Keys — May 26, 2008 #
Dear family Sullivan

All my love and my prayers are with you, God will find the way to heal you and to Hillary to find the way back home with love and peace.

Blessings, love and light for you all.

Gurprasad Liliana

Comment by Gurprasad Liliana — May 26, 2008 #
Our memory of the first evening we spent with the Sullivans will ever be dominated by our image of Hilary wearing a gauzy, floor-length gown – her pregnancy clearly visible beneath – “great with child”.

Hilary was both earthy and other worldly: luminous and goddess-like – at ease with herself and completely unaware of how beautiful she was. She quite literally took our breath away.

That warm summer evening,, Brian grilled dinner on a hibachi. We sat outside while we ate, overlooking a lovely fledgling garden; our conversation ranging over matters of faith and vocation.

As our meal ended, Hilary put the finishing touches on dessert – a tower of miniature powdered sugar donuts interlaced with fresh strawberries,

After dinner, as Brian began tidying the dishes away, Hilary chastised him; first for his departure from their agreement to leave the dishes until later; then, when he persisted, more vigorously, challengingly, for his refusal to languish in the moment, into the ease of the evening and our first meeting together.

Later, a number of Hilary’s health care colleagues began to arrive for an evening of quilt making. As Rae gathered our belongings, Susan nursed our son and Hilary seemed completely intrigued – peppering her with questions on the practical aspects of breastfeeding.

In retrospect it seems that our first evening together – Sullivans and Struthers – characterizes what we came to know and love in Hilary.

She was earthy and ethereal: spiritually and intellectually a seeker and a finder . She was at home with challenge and confrontation – intrigued by the practical aspects of domesticity and child raising for which she showed an uncanny natural ability. All the while Hilary lived her life in a whirl of never ending activity.

She did all these things and more with humour, hospitality, grace and maturity.

Hilary was a wonder to behold – and we were privileged for a time, all too brief, to live in the light of her presence.

Rae and Susan Struthers

Comment by Susan and Rae Struthers — May 26, 2008 #
Dearest Brian,Bart and girls
We were deeply saddened to hear about Hilary’s passing.I can only imagine the pain and grief that your going through. I feel truly blessed to have known her and her wonderful family. Hilary was a good friend She had a lovely warm and honest nature always genuinely interested in someone else’s story. I feel truly sad that I did not know hers. Her srength and spirit was truly strong. I know she will remain all around us to guide us through life’s path. May the memories of your dearly departed Hilary ease your pain and give you srength for the coming days.

May the road rise to meet you.
May the wind be always at your back
May the sun shine warm upon your face.
And, until we meet again,
May God hold you in the palm of his hand.

A Gaelic Blessing

With deepest sympathy and love

Niamh Keith and Girls

Comment by niamh bovell and family — May 27, 2008 #
Dear Bart and family and friends of Hilary,
Bart, I hope you have arrived home safely and am so sorry to hear of your mom. I am somehow comforted to learn that she was somewhere peaceful when she left. I have never met your family but assume from your spirit that your mom was a solid lovely woman.
My parents and I are keeping your family in our prayers.
Love from Ottawa, Kathie O.

Comment by Kathie Oginsky — May 27, 2008 #
Dear Brian and all the Sullivan children,

My heartfelt condolences to you and all who love Hilary. She was a beautiful person with a big heart. I feel very privileged to have the chance to get to know her. I’ll miss her but will always remember her as a loving and caring motherly kind of friend.

My thoughts and prayers are with you all!

with love from
Winnie in Hong Kong

Comment by Winnie Cheung — May 27, 2008 #
Dearest Clare and family and friends,

What a woman! Hilary’s radiance and strength courses through the souls of all those she loved. Love is all there is. Know that my thoughts are with you all, as we grieve and celebrate Hilary’s life together.

big love,

Miche

Comment by Michelle Vine — May 27, 2008 #
Beautiful Ones,

We send our deepest love and prayers to you at this time. We pray that her journey on be full of light and love and may she go on to her destination with grace and ease. God bless her and God bless your beautiful family.
Akal, Akal, Akal.
With our prayers,
Sandeep Kaur and Tirath Singh

Comment by Sandeep Kaur — May 27, 2008 #
Dear Brian and Family:

We were so saddened to hear of your loss. Knowing both of you during the part of your lives spent in Hamilton and at McMaster brought back fond memories. Jane particularly had such admiration for Hiliary and always marveled at her wonderful sense of humour, love and family. Ironically, 30+ years later we just happened to be thinking of Hiliary, Brian and Hamilton a few days ago. In reading the wonderful tributes from friends and family it seems that Hiliary continued to touch the lives of many people over the years and she will undoubtedly be missed and cherished by all.
Thinking of you Brian and your family at a most difficult time.
Affectionately, Joe and Jane Sicurella, Victoria, BC May 26, 2008

Comment by Joe and Jane Sicurella — May 27, 2008 #
Dear Sullivan Family

My heart is broken with this news. Hilary was a special person and I know that she will be in the hearts and minds of everyone who had the pleasure to spend time in her pressence. I will fondly remember Hilary and the Sullivan family being such a major part of my life after my mother passed. It was Hilary’s smile, love, and beautiful nature that always uplifted me. God bless you. My thoughts, prayers and love are with you always.
Paul Pahal

Comment by Paul Pahal — May 27, 2008 #
Dearest Brian, Bart, Amelia, Bachan, Clare, The Extended Sullivan Family and all Spirits who Hilary touched:

Hilary made a blessed impact on all who knew her and helped deliver four gifted, bountiful, inspiring and beautiful angel children. Hilary’s spirit will continue to live on in your hearts and souls forever.
What I remember most about your Mom.. she exudes warmth, unconditional love, gentleness and kindness. She gave a hug that embraces every part of your soul and makes you feel totally at peace. Now that she is free from the physical form I know that she will continue to hold you in her warm embrace in her spirit form unto infinity. There are no limits on her love that will continue to shine through and on all of you as she rests in your hearts to always be there for you whenever you need her.

Dearest Sullivans you will continue to be in our daily prayers during this time of grieving and healing.

We are always here for you.
With Love and Peace Always
Sharon & Ocean

Comment by Sharon & Ocean — May 27, 2008 #
Dear Brian and family,
Please know that all of us, your colleagues on the board of the Asian Heritage Month Society, are mourning with you over the loss of your soulmate, and the community’s loss of a much-loved and highly respected member. We hope that you will gain healing strength knowing that our thoughts and prayers are with you.
Jan Walls

Comment by Jan Walls — May 27, 2008 #
Dear Brian and family,

Marion joins me in offering you our heartfelt sympathies. Words fail at times like this. I can only remember, Brian, your deep loyalty to Hilary through many difficult moments. You exemplified what it means to be a spouse. May you find comfort in these dark days. Our thoughts and prayers are with you.

… Andre and Marion

Comment by Andre Auger — May 27, 2008 #
Dear Brian and family,

I was so saddened to hear the news and I am lost for words. My love and prayers are with you and your family in this difficult time.

From my family to yours please know that we feel for you and your family.

Ken Osfield (Betty, Kyle and Emma)

Comment by Ken Osfield — May 27, 2008 #
Dear Brian, Amelia, and family,

I always enjoyed sitting next to Hilary and chatting at UBC events or running into her in the neighbourhood. She always greeted me with a smile and would stop and ask how I was doing, she was a genuinely kind person. My thoughts are with you at this difficult time ~ Chad

Comment by Chad Hyson — May 27, 2008 #
Dear Brian and Family,

Sue and I were heartbroken to hear of Hilary’s death. Although we had not been in contact with you for many years we look back very fondly on earlier times at McMaster – skiing, camping, the Montreal Olympics – times of genuine, deep friendship. Hilary was an exceptional lady who touched the lives of many and left a lasting impression. Our hearts go out to you and the family at this difficult time.

Comment by Robin & Susan Roberts — May 27, 2008 #
Sending my condolences to the Sullivan’s family;
I dedicate peacefully prayers and blessings to you.
And may Hillary be a symbol in our hearts for all the good things she did to everyone. May the family and friends find a consolation in God.

Keep strong,
Rose Ong’ech

Comment by Rose; — May 27, 2008 #
Hilary’s warm embrace of friendship, knitting skills, gardening advice and enlightening Samurai movie knowledge will remain with me forever. Thank you, I will miss you dearly my friend.

Sullivan family, be strong, I’m here for you if you need ANYTHING.

-david thomas manzl

Comment by david thomas manzl — May 27, 2008 #
My thoughts are with you Brian and the entire Sullivan clan. Your family has great strength and it will see you through this heartbreaking time. I like to think that Hilary would approve of this poem and its gentle call to celebrate her life and vitality.

She is Gone
(By David Harkins)

You can shed tears that she is gone
Or you can smile because she has lived

You can close your eyes and pray that she will come back
Or you can open your eyes and see all that she has left

Your heart can be empty because you can’t see her
Or you can be full of the love that you shared

You can turn your back on tomorrow and live yesterday
Or you can be happy for tomorrow because of yesterday

You can remember her and only that she is gone
Or you can cherish her memory and let it live on

You can cry and close your mind, be empty and turn your back
Or you can do what she would want: smile, open your eyes, love and go on.

Warmest Regards,
Anne DeWolfe

Comment by Anne DeWolfe — May 27, 2008 #
Brian,

When I heard that Hilary was missing, I asked a number of family members/friends to pray for her safe return. Now, our prayers turn towards you and your family. Know that there are many folks who are quietly sending you healing thoughts. (As is evidenced by this lovely testament to your wife).

Please do let me or any of the Student Development folks know if we can do anything for you at this time.

Comment by Erin Biddlecombe — May 27, 2008 #
Clare and Bart,

I hope you feel my heart reaching to you and your family, you are magical people.

With love and respect for a beautiful life lived,
Kristian

Comment by Kristian — May 28, 2008 #
Dear Brian, Amelia, Madaline and Clare,
Our thoughts and prayers are with you as you support each other in your grief. May you all find special strength to face the future together without Hilary.

We have many happy memories of our two families together when we were all young.

Frank, Janet, Hugh and Ian Brewster

Comment by janet and frank brewster — May 28, 2008 #
to your beautiful family: may you be strong and brave during this time, let us celebrate hilary’s life and her impact on ours. my prayers are with you.

Comment by sarita — May 28, 2008 #
My love and deepest sympathies with you all in this time of sadness at such a great loss. May God wrap you all in his arms of comfort as you come together to grieve and celebrate her life.
All my love.
Daniel

Comment by Daniel Brewer — May 28, 2008 #
So sudden and unexpected. Another beautiful star in the sky in Canada. We are thinking of her and all of you.

Comment by Steve & Lenna — May 28, 2008 #
It is quite meaningful to read all these tributes and learn more about the richness of Hilary’s life since college. I saw Hilary – for the first time in many years – at our college reunion in 2007. It was a happy time, and it brought back memories of our college days, a spring vacation together, all the fun and the pain and her special presence. If only she knew what a hero she was to many of us, to say nothing of the fun and energy she brought into any gathering. Brian, it was a delight to meet you last year for the first time. Gosh, she was lucky to find you! It seems so insignificant to say this, but we are thinking of you and your kids daily and pray for your gradual healing. You all were the light of Hilary’s life, and please don’t forget that.

Comment by Barbara Kuehn Frank — May 28, 2008 #
brian, bart, amelia, mada, clare, gus and rama – all of my love, strength, thoughts and prayers, and of my family, are with you constantly. thank to all of you, and to hilary for being so loving and welcoming me so readily into your family from day one. please let me know whenever you may need me.

love, sekyiwa.

Comment by sekyiwa wi-afedzi — May 28, 2008 #
Dear Brian and Sullivan Family:

On behalf of the staff of explorASIAN, I wish to pass on our deepest condolences to you and your family over Hilary’s passing. We are extremely saddened and our thoughts and prayers are with you and your loved ones during this difficult time.

Don, Crystal, Annabelle, Amy, Jennifer

Comment by Don Montgomery — May 28, 2008 #
Dear Clare, Brian, Bart, Amelia, Mada and Gus,
My first memory of Hilary was on Remembrance Day when we played soccer in the park by the beach all day. We had been up late the night before at a post-aggies hockey gathering where Gus was a guest and may have eaten a bit of our food so he didn’t feel like breakfast in the mroning. We wanted to bring Gus to the park so Hilary packed his breakfast to-go in his lunchbox and we laid it our for him when we got there and all the other dogs came and snacked on his food. I was so tickled and happy that someone would be so thoughtful as to pack their family pet’s food, it was my first introduction to Hilary’s warmth and caring that she extended to all. I will miss your mom but I know you have many happy memories of her where she will live on forever.

Take care, with love,

Flora (and Kyle Wood), Victoria, BC

Comment by Flora Wood — May 28, 2008 #
Dear Amelia, Madeleine, Bart, Clare and Brian

It is so very difficult when a piece of your very soul is taken from you, but you need only to look around at each other to appreciate the wonderful legacy that Hilary has left.

Please accept my deepest sympathies.

Susan Wi-Afedzi

Comment by Susan Wi-Afedzi — May 28, 2008 #
Dear Brian, Bart and Family,

I send you love and hold you and Hilary tenderly.

Patricia Pucher (Massage Therapist)

Comment by Patricia Pucher — May 28, 2008 #
Dear Family–I was shocked to learn of Hilary’s disappearance and am deeply saddened by your loss. Through my friendship with Bart I was blessed to have come to know her. Throughout highschool, the Sullivan house was a second home to me, and Hilary was like a second mother. She always took a keen interest in me and my family. I will always remember her at work in the sun room as Bart and I would try to negotiate last minute sleep-overs, staying for dinner, and TV time. I never felt like a guest in your house, and like the others kids, was expected to do my share! Thanks Hilary (and Brian) for tolerating the obnoxious noise of punk rock music blaring in the bedroom, feedback and drums in the garage, splotches of hair bleach and purple dye on the towels, and the ten thousand other annoyances of teenage boys and their friends! The world is a little less beautiful without Hilary in it. –Marc B.

Comment by Marc Bernhard — May 29, 2008 #
Dear Brian, Bartaluchi, Amelio, Maddy, and Clareabell.

For a short time, we were a part of your happy, busy, growing lives and we feel enriched by that. Of course, Hilary was central to our time together. She had the ability to touch the deepest parts of a person, and while that was not always comfortable, it was always true: that honesty will always be cherished. In many ways, Hilary was like a big sister to Gord and I. We have many wonderful memories of your family. Please get in touch if there is anything we can do to help you get through your loss, and know that we are thinking of you across the years with saddness and with love. Blessings to all of you.

Gord and Sandra Maxwell

Comment by sandra dayus maxwell — May 29, 2008 #
Dear Brian, Bart, Amelia, Madeline and Clare,

I have such fond memories of Hilary over the four years that Brian and I were colleagues on the UBC Team. Hilary’s capacity to form a bond of friendship was strong and we had some great evenings together over the years. I recall an evening at your home with Bart and Dinesh and Anji enjoying a late summer dinner in your back yard. I will always remember Hilary for the perpetual twinkle in her eyes, the warmth of her smile, her genuine interest in others and the joy she radiated. She lives on in all of you and while your lives are forever changed by her absence, her presence in your memories will be a treasured gift. She certainly touched me in ways I cannot describe. Our thoughts and prayers are with you in these difficult days. Indira

I hope you find this

Indira

Comment by Indira Samarasekera — May 29, 2008 #
to the beauitful sullivan family;
so much love fills this page. my heart and thoughts are with you all during this difficult time.
love irene

Comment by irene — May 29, 2008 #
Bart..We have been friends close to 5 years now..but i have to admit this was the toughest and trying moments in our relationship…I met you in Africa and i have not met any member of your family but in spirit i feel deeply in these trying times…

Am with you in prayers..

Comment by Muki — May 29, 2008 #
Over the past few weeks I have thought about you each day. David has talked about the time he spent with your family since the very beginning of our relationship. You truly made him feel at home and allowed him to be part of what he describes as the “real deal” when it comes to families. Remember that this quality remains in you and the love that you share will continue to be an inspiration. Your mom’s spirit will always be part of our lives in the memories that David shares with me.

Love Julia

Comment by Julia Rose — May 29, 2008 #
as our families have intertwined over our life times in ceremonies and celebrations and all various occassions of love shared, we come together with you again now to share and support you in this immense time of loss. Our hearts and thoughts are with you.

Comment by Marty, Mary, Erin, Ian, Shannon and Caitlin McNally — May 29, 2008 #
Fare well, Hillary, fare well!

And for the Family: thank you for sharing and I wish you all to continue in this beautifull love. Sneh

Comment by Sneh Victoria Schnabel — May 29, 2008 #
Dear Brian and family, I was deeply saddened to hear of your loss.It is quite obvious from reading the many kind words from friends that Hilary was a wonderful wife , mother and friend to many. She was, and remains in everyone’s memory, a beautiful, loving and special person. My most sincere sympathies and prayers to all of you. Tom Leiter

Comment by Tom Leiter — May 29, 2008 #
Bart…Its Me
Am With You In Prayers Brother.

Comment by ZAQ — May 29, 2008 #
Dear Brian and Sullivans,

My thoughts and sympathies are with you. I was only able to know Hilary briefly, but I always found her to be a kind, warm, and just generally wonderful person.

My deepest condolences,

Chris

Comment by Christopher Eaton — May 29, 2008 #
I met Hilary in Seattle at a Family constellation workshop and since then I’ve attended a few workshops arranged by Hilary in Vancouver. I really enjoyed your warmth, Hilary, and will miss you very much. Take care on your journey. I send your family who will be missing you, many heartfelt wishes of love.

Nicola

Comment by Nicola — May 30, 2008 #
Dear Madeleine, Bart, Amelia, Clare and Brian,
It was with deep, deep sadness that I learned about your mom’s death, and my heart breaks for all you have been through.
I will be with you on Sunday, perhaps one of the few from your Guelph years.
Much love,
Madeline
(Victoria)

Comment by Madeline Bakker — May 30, 2008 #
Brian and family;

I truly do not know what to say.

Except that I have gone through a similar event and while I do not know what you are going through ..I do understand.

I believe that no greater family exists in the world than that of the student services family.

A family roooted in caring for one another. A family with many resources and…a family who supports each other in a time of need.

Brian and family understand that the entire student services family in Canada are here for you all. Just say the word !

Rob

Comment by Robert (Rob) Shea — May 30, 2008 #
Dear Brian:
I am so very very sad to hear about your wife. Losing your spouse is so terribly hard, as I recently learned myself. My heart and thoughts are with you and your family.
Best,
Jean Lipman-Blumen

Comment by Jean Lipman-Blumen — May 30, 2008 #
Amelia and the Sullivans,

I am sending strength to a beautiful group of people. Through Amelia I have met Madeleine, Bart and Clare. I am always amazed to hear about the interesting, sincere and cool things you are up to. All of your paths have been an inspiration to me. It is to these paths I send my warm thoughts.

Lukas (in Vermont)

Comment by Lukas Huffman — May 30, 2008 #
Dear Amelia
I am so sorry that you have lost your mom. The pain must seem unbearable at times. Be patient with yourself and in time I am sure your many good memories will be a comfort and a blessing.
Bill and I send you, Bart, Madeleine, Clare and your dad our love—you are very present in our thoughts and we wish you well.
as always, judy and bill riches

Comment by judy riches — May 30, 2008 #
Dear Brian and Sullivan Family

I’m deeply saddened to hear of Hilary’s passing.

At such a difficult time for your family, I hope you take comfort in the memories that you share and the time you had together.

Please know that the thoughts of many are with you at this time and that we are here to support you in any way we can.

Sincerely

Frank

Comment by Frank Danielson — May 30, 2008 #
Dear Family
I think of you daily and my heart is heavy for your loss.You have my thoughts, prayers, and tears. I wish i could be there to extend my open arms and pass some sort of comfort to all of you but know that my heart is. I love you all and am remembering Hilary fondly. With so much love, Virginia

Comment by Virginia — May 30, 2008 #
Dear Brian,
My heart and prayers for you and your family during this difficult time.
Sincerely
Silvia Martínez
( México )

Comment by Silvia Martínez — May 30, 2008 #
Brian – I’m not quite sure how long it’s been since I last saw you and Hilary, but I do have especially fond memories of Hilary. She was attentive and kind to me in the 70’s, a young and green college student, starved for “sisters.” She always made me feel that she was eager to hear what I was thinking and yet would not be afraid to challenge careless or thoughtless remarks I might have made – but in a gentle and kind way. She certainly had a gift for connection and from the other messages here it appears those talents remained undiminished throughout her life.
My prayers are with you and your family – I hope that the richness of your spirit, your family and your memories will see you through the days ahead.

With love, Mary Kate

Comment by Mary Kate Sullivan Cox — May 30, 2008 #
Sat Nam Dear Bachan, HarKirat, and The Sullivan Family,

I am deeply saddened to learn that Hillary will not be coming home to you. I am overwhelmed by the loss and pain that you must be feeling in your hearts. I did not have the honour of knowing Hillary, but know that she must have been an incredible being of light and peace. I am honoured to know Bachan and Harkirat through the Sangat and am always in awe of their purity, presence of spirit and love. May this purity, love and connection to the divine deeply touch each one of you during this journey. I pray for the healing of each one of your hearts and know that Hillary is at peace with the divine.

Blessings and love,
Sheila Biddiscombe

Comment by Sheila Biddiscombe — May 30, 2008 #
Dear Brian and all of the Sullivan family
Words cannot express. We send our love and our tears, to join with your tears.
Hilary is a truly beautiful spirit–joyously open hearted and forever questing. She is at peace now. We wish for you, whom she loved so completely, that you will feel her peace and love, and her lightness of being, in your every moment. We’ll miss her physical self so deeply, but know she will remain with you and continue to guide your growth in life and love. And she will be forever in our memories.
If there is anything we can possibly do..
Much love and heartfelt condolences,
Anne and Bob

Comment by Anne and Bob Andrew — May 30, 2008 #
Sullivans,
I have many fond memories of the Sullivan household while growing up in Guelph — and it was a gift to re-connect a few years ago in Vancouver. Please know that we are also praying for you in your mourning for Hilary.

Comment by Hugh Brewster — May 31, 2008 #
Dear Brian & Family,

I am so sorry not to be with you this weekend, but so many of us will be in spirit. I want to share with you a poem from a memorial service I attended about a year ago. I didn’t know why I saved it, but now I do. Please think of us all as your angels. We will all endeavor to be just that.

“Living in Grace”

“Experiencing grief, shock, fear or pain offers very little choice. You can choose anger, bitterness and illness, or you turn to God like a child, accepting what is to be and living in a state of grace. So much love pours down upon you, like an energy, entering the body…The people who come into your life at such times take you under their wings. Being in a state of grace is being open to receiving. Angels become active participants for those living in a state of grace.”

Loretta Bloom Bohaty
From “Some Thoughts, Some Poetry for my Daughter”

And one more thing…

I lost a sister some years ago. She, like Hilary was a charismatic person who touched many lives in her too-short time on earth. In the years that she has been gone, I’ve thought of her as a welcoming, organizing, comforting spirit to those who have left us. As I’ve read the beautiful, loving comments remembering & gloriously commemorating Hilary, I have felt the connection between two incredibly powerful, connected women & I would like to believe that my sister & Hilary (who would be great friends, there is no doubt) are somehow together watching over us all, and welcoming new spirits into their world. Believe me, the two of them will handle it beautifully.

And no, I’m not quite finished: a quote from Keats which was given at my sister’s Memorial has stayed with me over the years and I hope it will help you, too.

From The Letters of John Keats 1814-21

“Negative Capability”

“The capacity of being in uncertainties, mysteries, doubts, without any irritable reaching after fact and reason.”

May the uncertainties, mysteries, and doubts abate, and may the full joy of Hilary remain and comfort you always.

My love,

Sara

Comment by Sara Stassen — May 31, 2008 #
Dear Hilary and Sullivan Family,

I am late in sending on my deepest sympathy and prayers…all of you have been in my mind almost constantaly for the past couple of weeks…AND I have written and re-written this note to you so many times!!! Hilary waas such a very special person. My memories may vary from many of those on this site in that they capture her during her college years and the year or two right after….so here goes!!!

Hilary scared me!!!! Why? Not because of her actions but because she was so beautiful, sophisticated, funny, bright and aboslutely the “life of the party”! She was one of the most outstanding and popular of the Kappa sisters…she was a “star”….and I held her up on a pedestal!!! I held her in high esteem and because of my own insecurities during my college years never felt I could be enough of a friend…so we went thru college as sorority sisters but not much else…

Then lo and behold, after college, a group of us ended up sharing an apartment….at that time we all had our ups and downs, struggling with new jobs, new boyfriends, and just plain figuring out what we were going to do with our lives….it was at this point that I saw another side of Hilary…I began to know her beneath the “glitter” and saw the sensitive, caring woman side I had missed previously…….yet she still had the gutsy , “push the envelope”side of her…did you know that had a part time job as a “Play Boy Bunny”?..This was the beginning of the Hugh Hefner Era…getting employed as a “Bunny” was a ‘coup”..it took brains and beauty…to even get a job interview you needed to be bright and beautiful….I still remember nights when she would come home and relate wonderful stories about her time at work….

As the years went on, we connected thru reunions and cards…I saw her life and talents continue to expand as she grew in her profession, met Brian and became a wife and mother…I remember most fondly a lunch we shared in Harvard Yard at one of Brian’s reunions…she was so proud of her family…at that point our lives were intersecting and we talked at length about our careers but more importantly about our children and about our jobs as “mothers”….we shared our struggles as we sought the solution to such a monumental task…….she was a wonderful friend who listened with empathy, and offered thoughtful responses…..her humility was astounding in the face of all of her accomplishments….

I think of you four children a lot, as I, too, lost my parents in an accident when I was only in my early thirites…you still have a loving and loyal father….the only positive outcomes of that tragedy for me were that it bought the remaining family together as a family AND that I realized that I am stronger than I could have ever beleived….

I will be thinking of you, and of Hilary on Sunday…in fact I am hoping to talk to our sorority sisters who will be together in Illinois with Chris….they will call me in CA and we will celebrate your mother, sister, wife, at that moment….I will be thinking of all of you and of Hilary…sending light , love and prayers….

my tears, love and best for your life forward….

Jane Mohaupt Forbes Saltonstall

Comment by Jane Saltonstall (Mohaupt) — May 31, 2008 #
I wanted to pass along my sympathy to all of you at the loss of Hilary. Hilary and Brian trusted us with their precious son when he was just a baby punk and we were grown up rabble rousers. She always spoke fairly and fully and her energy was inspiring. I admired her and am sending my thoughts to all of the family. Big love Joulee

Comment by Julie Baird — May 31, 2008 #
To The Sullivan Family: Such sad news for us, on the wedding weekend of my eldest daughter. Our hearts are aching for all of you. Hilary’s brilliant, loving, mothering is evident in each of you. We are thinking of you and offer you the prayers and thoughts that you need. The spirit of peace for Hilary and all of you, is on it’s way from Guelph. Chris, Joe, 2 Amandas (Margetson Family) ((Hugs))

Comment by Chris Margetson — June 1, 2008 #
Dear Brian,
My thoughts and prayers are with you, and all your family, at this difficult time. While I did not have the privilege of knowing Hilary, it is obvious from reading the comments here, and seeing the wonderful photos, that she was a lady of light, love, and laughter.
Sincerely, Mary

Comment by Mary Hayden — June 1, 2008 #
To the Sullivan Family
Although Hilary touched my life only a few times she made lasting impression.
My heartfelt condlences at your tragic loss may she rest in peace and her spirit be with us all
Sincerely
Jill Romanchuk

Comment by Jill Romanchuk — June 1, 2008 #
Brian and family,
My prayers have been with you since I heard Hilary was missing, and they continue to be with you at this time. From all the warm words I have read about Hilary I have learned what a beautiful spirit she was and will continue to be in all your lives. May these memories help to heal your hearts now, and warm your hearts as you remember the wonderful life she lived.
Deepest sympathies, Bonita

Comment by Bonita Perko — June 1, 2008 #
dear sullivan family,

i have been driving down your old street in guelph this past week and thinking of you all. holding you in my heart. i was reminded of your trampoline and standing in the backyard on hilary’s birthday. she had invited me to her party and i felt so honoured. we danced together in nia classes back then. and i connected so much with her.

bart. i love you. and i am sending you all my love. please know that we are holding you in our hearts.

may you feel the strength of all this love while you grieve.

much love
chantalle

Comment by chantalle asselin — June 2, 2008 #
love and good intentions for all of you and for hilary, with all my heart. i’m so sorry for the grief of your loss, and i wish i could be there in van. i hope the weekend of service and remembrance has been filled with healing affirmations of life. clare, i really hope to see you when i’m back in bc. big sunny hugs from ontario,
_chris.

Comment by christopher suen — June 2, 2008 #
Dear Friends,
I never had the opportunity to meet Hilary — that would have happened at the next Constellation workshop. What a disappointment — clearly she has been so loved and so gracious.

You have my deep sympathy and high regard. May her love and that of her/your friends continue to sustain you through this season of loss.

Kathleen

Comment by K Schmitt — June 2, 2008 #
Brian and family,

I was so surprised and saddened to learn of Hilary’s passing. Although distance separated you and us, my beloved Archie had shared memories and stories with me (as only a Deming can!), and I came to know Hilary in a special way. Please accept my love and prayers in this time of sadness and loss, but also a time to celebrate a wonderful woman’s life. Be comfroted in the love of friends and family and the knowledge that Hilary is now dancing with the angels. With love, Cindy Deming

Comment by Cindy Deming — June 2, 2008 #
Dear Brian, Bart, Amelia, Mada, Clare, Sue, and family,
Our hearts are heavy for you, and our prayers are many. We will remember Hilary fondly–and miss her. Know that we are with you all in spirit. We send much love.
Lauren and Charlie Mitchell

Comment by Lauren & Charlie Mitchell — June 3, 2008 #
My thoughts and prayers are with you all at this very difficult time. Hiliary will be missed but never forgotten. She was a warm, caring, fun-loving, and unigue lady.
Diane Carrier
(a member of Hiliary’s Physio
grad class)

Comment by Diane Carrier — June 3, 2008 #
Dear Brian Sullivan and family.
Lori Guest was kind enough to inform me about the tragic loss of your wife. Please accept my condolences! My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

Louise McCabe
Central Student Association
University of Guelph

Comment by Louise McCabe — June 3, 2008 #
Brian,

All my thoughts are with you and your family. My deepest sympathies.

B.

Comment by Brendon Goodmurphy — June 3, 2008 #
To The Sullivan family
I wish I could have made it up for the weekend to give my support, but I know my parents and sister passed it on for me. Hilary was a wonderful woman and I will miss her greatly.
All my love
Katie McNally

Comment by Katie — June 3, 2008 #
Dear Bart and Sullivan family,

I am writing to let you know that you and your amazing family are in my thoughts. I am saddened and so sorry for your loss. I met your mom and your dad only once when we were all randomly up in the Elaho for a witness weekend at the same time but I remember her wonderful and open energy. I also feel certain that behind a person as inspiring, creative, adventurous and beautiful as you must lie some pretty stellar parents. I can only imagine that this must be a tough and overwhelming time for you and your family. While I know that a message like this can’t ease much pain, I am sending you a HUGE hug from Ottawa and hope you find some strength in knowing that many folks are thinking about you.

Salama sana and lots of love,
Heidi

Comment by Heidi Braun — June 5, 2008 #
Dear Brian and family,
We are so sad for the loss of your wonderful wife and mom. Out paths crossed often in your Guelph days when our children were young – and so were we. Her clothing exhanges, knitting, and interest in others stories, and her focus on her children are what I think of when I remember those days.
Thoughts of comfort to you and you lovely children.

Comment by Kerry Vandergrift — June 5, 2008 #
Dear Brian and family,
So very, very sad to hear of your loss. I was lucky enough to meet Hilary last year at the conference in Florida last year and I remember watching the two of you together envious of what was clearly a lovely, caring relationship between two wonderful people. My heart goes out to you and your family.

Comment by Deanne Fisher — June 6, 2008 #
Dear Bart, Mr. Brian and the family,
My heart and prayers go to you and your family during this difficult time.
Sincerely
Dolores

Comment by Dolores Krgovic — June 9, 2008 #
Dear Madelaine and rest of the Sullivan Family:

I only heard about the trauma of a missing loved one and the loss of your Mom/Hilary a few days ago.

I know the horror and the pain and the sadness will not go away, but do hope that the love I know your family has from my experience with Madelaine and her friendship with Tara (my daughter) will bring healing and mend that hole you must feel, making you whole again before too long.

I know you will be comforted by the fact that, however unpleasant the experience of her passing was for her loved ones left behind, your Mom/Hilary is now Home and at peace…and also by knowing that Love never dies.

I send you light, love and prayers in this difficult time, which I know extends for quite some time,
Sonia Pouyat (Waterloo, ON)

Comment by Sonia Pouyat — June 10, 2008 #
Brian–What sad news. Our thoughts and prayers go out to you Brian, and all the kids. We’re leaving Monday for a two week vacation otherwise we’d certainly drive north for the services. We’re so sorry. All our love. Ned & Donna

Comment by Donna & Ned Deming — June 11, 2008 #
I offer my condolences to your family at this time and wanted to share with you my warm memories of Hillary.

I met Hillary when she attended my workshop at the Asheville Family Constellation Conference last fall and we kept in touch since then. She was a sweet and warmhearted person. She regularly sent spiritual teaching stories and the last one I received was in late April. I have just re-read some of them and note their humor, earthiness, and sensibleness. Hillary was a lovely person and I really join you in feeling her loss.

May you all be well..

With much love,

Alison

Comment by Alison Rose Levy — June 11, 2008 #
Dear Brian,

Please accept our deepest sympathy. I know Hilary will be welcomed by the Creator with open arms.

With the greatest affection,

Ian and Laura

Comment by Ian Cull — June 11, 2008 #
Brian,
So sorry to hear the news about Hillary. May our thoughts and prayers bring a little comfort to your family in this extremely difficult time. In amongst all the sadness may you find many reasons to celebrate Hillary’s life and the joy she brought to your lives.
With much prayer,
Tom and Betsy

Comment by Tom and Betsy Cornwall — June 11, 2008 #
Dear Brian and family – I wish to add my deeply heartfelt condolences. I met Hilary during the Learning Circle, it was almost a year long commitment. Hilary came to Seattle from Canada faithfully each month. I came to know and love Hilary very much. I am sure anyone that spent any time with Hilary also came to love her she was such a warm loving person. May you receive God’s great love and comfort during this diffcult time.
Lizabeth

Comment by Lizabeth — June 11, 2008 #
Brian…

May you laugh and cry in celebration of Hilary’s life fully lived, find joy in memories of her journey in this realm, be surrounded by love now and always, and in time, find peace.

Thinking of you and yours….

Roberta

______________________________
From The Prophet, by Khalil Gibran

Then Almitra spoke, saying, “We would ask now of Death.”

And he said:

You would know the secret of death.

But how shall you find it unless you seek it in the heart of life?

The owl whose night-bound eyes are blind unto the day cannot unveil the mystery of light.

If you would indeed behold the spirit of death, open your heart wide unto the body of life.

For life and death are one, even as the river and the sea are one.

In the depth of your hopes and desires lies your silent knowledge of the beyond;

And like seeds dreaming beneath the snow your heart dreams of spring.

Trust the dreams, for in them is hidden the gate to eternity.

Your fear of death is but the trembling of the shepherd when he stands before the king whose hand is to be laid upon him in honour.

Is the sheered not joyful beneath his trembling, that he shall wear the mark of the king?

Yet is he not more mindful of his trembling?

For what is it to die but to stand naked in the wind and to melt into the sun?

And what is to cease breathing, but to free the breath from its restless tides, that it may rise and expand and seek God unencumbered?

Only when you drink from the river of silence shall you indeed sing.

And when you have reached the mountain top, then you shall begin to climb.

And when the earth shall claim your limbs, then shall you truly dance.

Comment by Roberta Mason — June 11, 2008 #
With such distinct memories – sparkling eyes, free spirit, love & understanding, and the very first bikini (with ease!) – it’s hard to imagine it was over 40 years ago. I can be sure only because my daughter, who we named Hilary in all consciousness – will be 40 this July. So sad to hear of her passing, happy (but not surprised)to hear of her rich life. Deepest sincere sympathies.

Comment by Karen Strom Hayes Boyer — June 11, 2008 #
Dear Sullivans,

It is so hard to imagine that this is what you are going through right now. Ever since I heard about the news today, I have just been reflecting on Hilary’s life and how giving she was. How she welcomed me into your home and her bright and beautiful eyes and her even more vibrant spirit.

You are all in my thoughts and my prayers. Words are not enough to express anything at this point, but they are what we have.

May God comfort you at this time and rest her soul in eternal peace.

I am here for you in whatever way I can be,

God Bless,

Brenda.

Comment by Brenda Ogembo — June 11, 2008 #
Sullivans,
I never met Hilary but I feel like I knew her through her son Bart. She seemed warm, loving funny and above all a wonderful mother. It was with great sadness that I received the news of her passing. Even though we never met i feel like she touched my life. I pray for you all and join you in celebrating Hilary’s life.

Comment by Renee Kokonya — June 11, 2008 #
Brian,

Best wishes, smiles, and prayer support from some of the Connecticut Sullys. Please know that all of us are thinking of you and offer long distance hugs to all of you. May you find peace and remember all of the good times.

Cousin Dave, Mary Jane & Jane Sullivan

Comment by Dave Sullivan — June 11, 2008 #
Dear Brian, Bart, Amelia, Mada, and Clare, Sue, and Families,
Our hearts are heavy for you, and we send many prayers your way. Know that we are with you in spirit–sorry we cannot attend the memorial.
Love and hugs to all, Lauren and Charlie

Comment by Lauren & Charlie Mitchell — June 11, 2008 #
To Bart and family
I was really saddened to hear this. I met your mom when she worked as a physiotherapist in Guelph. She was wonderful to me and I really appreciated the care and compassion she put into healing.
Please know that my thoughts are with you Bart and that years later I still remember Hilary’s kindness.
Hugs from Lori Guest

Comment by Lori Guest — June 11, 2008 #
To the Sullivan family, We knew your mother through the love and care we have experienced here in Kenya through Bart. We will always keep you in our prayers. Know that we have another angel up there watching over us. May her memory remain with us always.

Jane

Comment by Topistar Jane Ngambona — June 11, 2008 #
Dear Sullivans, my heart is very heavy for you. I pray for strength from Almighty to enable you to come out of this stronger. Daddy Bart hope to see u soon n praying for your safe return home. Kim

Comment by Andrew Kimani — June 11, 2008 #
Dear Sullivan Family and Friends:

Today is Hilary’s memorial service. Although I am here in Portland, my heart is with you in Vancouver.

It was my privilege to have Hilary in my Family Constellations training in B.C. a few years ago. She made a special impression on me. Hilary brought a lovely sweetness and joy in life into our circle, one that was tempered by her knowledge of the difficulties and challenges life can bring. She was very warm-hearted and compassionate, and at the same time she could be fierce and protective if she felt people were being unfair or hurtful. Hilary was one of those rare people who could be both passionate and rational at the same time, a trait I really admired about her. I appreciated Hilary’s inquisitive nature, her openness to learning, her willingness to be challenged and to grow, her playful spirit, and her love of order and balance. All of these memories will stay with me, and I will miss her.

To lose one you love so suddenly and unexpectedly is a special kind of pain. I send my love and good wishes to you at this challenging time. I hope that in time the difficult memories of this time will fade, that more light will come into the special and sweet memories you have of Hilary, so that she, and you, are left with the radiance of love she brought into this world.

Jane Peterson

Comment by Jane Peterson — June 11, 2008 #
To all the Sullivans:

Memorial services can be tough, and though I was not able to attend, I hope that you found it to be exactly what it was designed to be…a time of peace, healing, remembrance, and a celebration of Hilary’s life.

You are an extraordinary family and she was so in love and proud of all of you. When she and Amanda came to retrieve Clare in Albuquerque some years ago, her eyes sparkled, and she seemed to glow as she watched her 2 daughters and talked of the rest of the clan. You all were her life.

Remember that the length of the grieving process does not measure the strength of your love. We do not need to grieve longer because we love more. When our tears have dried up it does not mean that our heart has grown cold. It only means that we have worked our way through the worst of times. The love we have for our loved one is still steadfast in our hearts.

Now that she is gone, your task as a family is to live your lives with Hilary in your heart. Relish the great memories. Honor her legacy. Sustain the visions you have for your futures.

My love to all,

Denham Clements

Comment by denham clements — June 11, 2008 #
Dear Brian, Bartaluchi, Amelio, Maddy, and Clareabell.

For a short time, we were a part of your happy, busy, growing lives, and we feel enriched by that. Of course, Hilary was central to our time together. She had the ability to touch the deepest parts of a person, and while that was not always comfortable, it was always true: that honesty will always be cherished. In many ways, Hilary felt like a big sister to Gord and I. We have many wonderful memories of your family. Please let us know if there is anything we can do to help you get through your loss, and know that we are thinking of you across the years with sadness and with love. Blessings to all of you.

Gord and Sandra Maxwell

Comment by sandra dayus maxwell — June 11, 2008 #
FOR HILARY & FAMILY
She’s here, she’s here!

She’s here, she’s here, look all around,
Like a gentle wafting breeze touching the ground

She’s here, she’s here, come look don’t you see?
She’s inside of you and inside of me!

She’s still here today in all of our hearts,
That’s a pretty good place for us all to start

She’s here, don’t worry, we never die.
I’m all around you just like the sky.

I’m still here my sweets, no need to let go
I am one with the one who is running the show

We gather today because she was here,
And want you to know that we think she was dear

Thank you so much, for being present today,
To honor our Mommy who just passed away.
She’s here, she’s here!

Comment by Gary Stuart — June 11, 2008 #
I facilitated a constellation for her in North Carolina at the Constellation Conference….I would like to speak to her younger daughter with health issues… Email me when the time is right….Gary@Chifield.com
My deepest Sympathy GARY

Comment by Gary Stuart — June 11, 2008 #
to the sullivan family and all those grieving the loss of hillary,

my thoughts, prayers and love is with you.

kelly

Comment by Kelly — June 11, 2008 #
My deepest sympathies to the entire Sullivan family.

Comment by David Yuen — June 11, 2008 #
I send my love and prayers to Brian and Children during this time of grief and sorrow. I have cheerful memories of last June 2007, when Hillary and I hosted Albrecht Mahr. and how much fun we had at the Bar BQ at the house and what wonderful hosts they were to us.

Comment by Ronaye Camren — June 11, 2008 #
Brian,

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your entire family at this difficult time.

Comment by Brian Teghtsoonian — June 11, 2008 #
Our memory of the first evening we spent with the Sullivans will ever be dominated by our image of Hilary wearing a gauzy, floor-length gown – her pregnancy clearly visible beneath – “great with child”.

Hilary was both earthy and other worldly: luminous and goddess-like – at ease with herself and completely unaware of how beautiful she was. She quite literally took our breath away.

That warm summer evening,, Brian grilled dinner on a hibachi. We sat outside while we ate, overlooking a lovely fledgling garden; our conversation ranging over matters of faith and vocation.

As our meal ended, Hilary put the finishing touches on dessert – a tower of miniature powdered sugar donuts interlaced with fresh strawberries,

After dinner, as Brian began tidying the dishes away, Hilary chastised him; first for his departure from their agreement to leave the dishes until later; then, when he persisted, more vigorously, challengingly, for his refusal to languish in the moment, into the ease of the evening and our first meeting together.

Later, a number of Hilary’s health care colleagues began to arrive for an evening of quilt making. As Rae gathered our belongings, Susan nursed our son (Matthew) and Hilary seemed completely intrigued – peppering me with questions on the practical aspects of breastfeeding.

In retrospect it seems that our first evening together – Sullivans and Struthers – characterizes what we came to know and love in Hilary.

She was earthy and ethereal: spiritually and intellectually a seeker and a finder . She was at home with challenge and confrontation – intrigued by the practical aspects of domesticity and child raising for which she showed an uncanny natural ability. All the while Hilary lived her life in a whirl of never ending activity.

She did all these things and more with humour, hospitality, grace and maturity.

Hilary was a wonder to behold – and we were privileged for a time, all too brief, to live in the light of her presence.

Susan and Rae Struthers Cambridge, Ontario

Comment by Susan and Rae Struthers — June 11, 2008 #
Dear Brian, Amelia and the rest of the Sullivan family.
My deepest sympathy to you. I am so sorry to hear about your tragic loss.

I thought I would share a poem…not mine, but William Wordsworth…
The Solitary Reaper

BEHOLD her, single in the field,
Yon solitary Highland Lass!
Reaping and singing by herself;
Stop here, or gently pass!
Alone she cuts and binds the grain,
And sings a melancholy strain;
O listen! for the Vale profound
Is overflowing with the sound.

No Nightingale did ever chaunt
More welcome notes to weary bands
Of travellers in some shady haunt,
Among Arabian sands:
A voice so thrilling ne’er was heard
In spring-time from the Cuckoo-bird,
Breaking the silence of the seas
Among the farthest Hebrides.

Will no one tell me what she sings?—
Perhaps the plaintive numbers flow
For old, unhappy, far-off things,
And battles long ago:
Or is it some more humble lay,
Familiar matter of to-day?
Some natural sorrow, loss, or pain,
That has been, and may be again?

Whate’er the theme, the Maiden sang
As if her song could have no ending;
I saw her singing at her work,
And o’er the sickle bending;—
I listen’d, motionless and still;
And, as I mounted up the hill,
The music in my heart I bore,
Long after it was heard no more.

Comment by Jennifer Hamilton — June 11, 2008 #
I knew Hillary from family constellations work. My experience of her was one with and open, generous heart, and very present with us all…She was my grandmother in a constellation with the women in my family, and the loving, nurturing, generative, prescence that she extended towards me, enabled me to take a big step towards my own healing. For this I will always be grateful. I will hold her in my heart forever.

Comment by Ginger Garner — June 11, 2008 #
Dear Brian and family,

It was heart breaking to hear the sad news of Hilary’s death. Although we hadn’t kept in contact over the years, Sue and I look back very fondly on those earlier times together at McMaster – skiing, camping, the ‘76 Olympics – genuine, deep friendship. Hilary was an exceptional lady who has touched the lives of many and left a lasting impression. Our heart goes out to you Brian, and your bonny family.

Comment by Robin and Susan Roberts — June 11, 2008 #
My deepest sympathy to Hilary’s family and friends. I knew Hilary at Northwestern when we were all transitioning into adutlhood; I will remember her fondly as someone with a ready smile and infectious laugh, someone we all loved to be with. I can see from the pictures here what a beautiful family she created, and I know she will be missed by all. May your memories of her sustain you in this difficult time. Sue Lehman in Madison, Wisconsin

Comment by Susan Trout Lehman — June 11, 2008 #
Dear Brian and Bart, Amelia, Madeline, and Clare:

My thought and prayer are with you.

The news shook me because few days ago, after many years of absent from her life, I thought about Hilary …. I am so sorry Hilary is passed on….

Dear Hilary.. I chant for you and pry for your peace…and your gentle journey ahead.

Hilary was an amazing person and worked a healing profession to help many injured person.
She was well loved by many and had everything, her loving, wonderful husband, Brian, and all loving children and her accomplished career…

I feel your pain… and I pray your strength…and I am thinking of you all.

Love, Yohko

Comment by Yohko Gidney — June 11, 2008 #
Dear Brian, Bart and the rest of the family,

My prayers for peace,love and strength, that God may be with you at this time and that you may rejoice in the time you spent with a beloved mother, wife and friend.

Ruth Situma

Comment by Ruth Situma — June 11, 2008 #
I send all my thoughts and prayers to your family.

Love
Dee Lowthorp and sons (David and Ross)
Fort Lauderdale, FL

Comment by Dee Lowthorp — June 11, 2008 #
Dear Brian, Bart, Amelia, Madeline and Clare,

I have such fond memories of Hilary over the four years that Brian and I were colleagues on the UBC Team. Hilary’s capacity to form a bond of friendship was strong and we had some great evenings together over the years. I recall an evening at your home with Bart and Dinesh and Anji enjoying a late summer dinner in your back yard. I will always remember Hilary for the perpetual twinkle in her eyes, the warmth of her smile, her genuine interest in others and the joy she radiated. She lives on in all of you and while your lives are forever changed by her absence, her presence in your memories will be a treasured gift. Our thoughts and prayers are with you in these difficult days. Indira

Comment by Indira Samarasekera — June 11, 2008 #
Dear family and friends of Hilary,

I was shocked and saddened by the news. I have connedcted to Hilary through family constellations work and we both shared deep love for this work. Some of her own constellation is still vivid in my memory. I always enjoyed her presence. Just the other day. I was reading some of old e-mails I received from Hilary since last summer and noticed how warmly and lovingly she supported us again and again while I was going throuth my own daughter’s birth and death. It meant us a lot. Thank you, Hilary, I am very grateful for your presence in my life. I am so glad to know you.

My deepest sympathy for those left behind. My prayers, Kaasu from Hawaii

Comment by Machiko Yamaguchi (Kaasu) — June 11, 2008 #
Hillary always made all of us smile….and laugh.

Comment by Jerri Starr Spurrier — June 11, 2008 #
Hello Brian,
Phyllis and I have been thinking of you and your family during this very difficult time. A mother is a very special person.

Comment by Frank and Phyllis Abbott — June 11, 2008 #
Dear Brian and Family:

While we only met Hilary once I could tell she was a wonderful person. We will include you all, and especially Hilary,in our prayers.

Michael Jackson and Diana Akiyama, Los Angeles

Comment by Michael L Jackson — June 11, 2008 #
My thoughts and prayers to you Brian, Bart and the whole family. God Bless you and carry you through this difficult time.

Comment by Esther Maunze — June 11, 2008 #
Dear Brian and Family: I was really sorry to hear the sad news of Hilary’s death. May the many happy memories and God’s eternal love help you through the difficult times. With affection, Liz Honegger

Comment by Liz Honegger — June 11, 2008 #
dear ones,

i love looking at these photos… i have spent many evenings checking up on the beautiful words that people have left here, lighting a candle for hilary, and just taking in the energy that flows right out of these photographs that say so much in their own right…

you know i think of you all the time…
so much love, dear sullivans.
nina
ps don’t forget to call on me at any hour.
xoxooxoxoxoxooxoxoxox

Comment by nina — June 11, 2008 #
to bart and the rest of the sullivan family,

i am so sorry to hear of your loss. my thoughts and prayers are with you.

lori

Comment by Lori Macintosh — June 11, 2008 #
Dear Brian and family
I have just learned the news of your tragic loss.. my heart is so sad for you. The loss of a partner is overwhelming… so many of the daily rhythms that are taken for granted are now gone. Silence permeates everywhere. The loss of a mother brings us in touch with our own mortality…and for the first time in your lives you face the reality of adulthood. You will all continue to grieve in your own way… yet from personal experience I know that grief comes unexpectedly in waves… sometimes when you least expect it.. Comfort can be hard to find… yet it is there in the support that others offer, the words in cards and notes that allow you to touch the intense feelings that are yours & the memories you cherish. The paradox you find yourself in is that you have many folks that are reaching out and caring for you, yet there is a lonliness that is difficult to describe as you continue on this journey. My sympathy to each of you. Lilly Walker (Newfoundland)

Comment by Lilly Walker — June 11, 2008 #
I often imagined coming to visit Vancover and in my mind it is just like the past. Brian and Hilary would be in the kitchen, us kids are moving in and out, it is a beautiful summer day. Such a remarkable family… and one i have been honoured to feel welcomed in to. You have all been a major part of the positive things in my life.
But life is crazy, and doesn’t stand still.
I am shocked at our loss, and have had many good crys, and will continue to as memories come and go.

I miss you all dearly and love you all.

Comment by Adam — June 12, 2008 #
Dear Brian, Bart and family

Shelley and I were so sad when we heard the news and want to let you know we’re thinking of you. I still remember how kind, generous and good humoured Hilary was with me the few times I’d been in the Sullivan household in Guelph. At any rate, please take care of yourselves and each other, and know we send our love.

Mark and Shelley McAlpine

Comment by Mark McAlpine — June 12, 2008 #
To Bachan, Clare, Bart, Amelia, & Brian,

I am so sorry to hear about your loss. I love Momma Sullivan’s beautiful soul, smile, love, and her presence. I always thought of her as a big body of water that supports life, Brian as the sky, Bart a tree with roots in the earth, Amelia a beautiful flower, Clare a bird flying freely, and Bachan the music that flows through the air.

Even though I didn’t spend much time with her, I am so grateful that I got to know Momma Sullivan’s beautiful soul. It didn’t take much to feel her beauty and love – she had such a strong presence.

My love and prayer are with you all.

Comment by Yumi — June 12, 2008 #
Dear Sullivan Family,

I remember the first time I met your mother about 8 years ago where upon meeting her she gave me a huge loving hug like I was a son. She invited me into her home, fed me at the dinner table and even shared with me some words of wisdom in the kitchen. Her caring nature is clear throughout the whole family where everyone is so sincerely welcoming from Brian and his attitudes towards his children and students to Bart where it is always about other people and their needs

Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

Justin

Comment by Justin — June 13, 2008 #
Brian & Family,

I too just heard of this tragic news this week, and was also shocked and saddened at Hilary’s unexpected and untimely passing.

Sadly I never had the opportunity to meet Hilary, but do consider Brian as a colleague, mentor, and friend. In his role at UBC and across the country he has contributed so much to his chosen profession and to his colleagues from coast to coast, and for this reason his loss will be felt by so many others.

Brian, our deepest condolences to you, your family, and all those who knew and loved Hilary so much. Our thoughts are with you, and please know that if there is anything that any of us can do to support or assist you at this difficult time, all you need to do is ask.

Sincerely,
Dave Hannah

Comment by Dave Hannah — June 14, 2008 #
Dear Sullivan Family
Just wanted to let you know our thoughts are with you at this time.
Both my Mom, sister Kerri and I worked with Hilary at Guelph Physiotherapy Centre.

We remember her as a unique, caring individual with a great laugh.

Please know that we are thinking of her and you at this time.
Sincerely
Dale, Brad and Amber Young
Kerri Williamson and Family
Guelph, Ontario

Comment by Dale and Amber Young — June 15, 2008 #
To Brian and Family
All of us who worked with Hilary at Guelph Physiotherapy Centre in Guelph and Regional Physiotherapy Centre in Fergus would like to convey our sincere sympathy.
As I think of the good times we had while working with Hilary, one memory stands out in particular. It was her birthday, and a red convertible had been rented for her. She came zooming up to the side door of the clinic with the tunes blasting, and a huge smile! She was having a ball! We will always remember her great smile and her wonderful sense of homour.

Comment by Sandra James — June 15, 2008 #
sending blessings, love and light. so precious- every moment. what an honour to be aquianted with such a family. xo jenn

Comment by jenn — June 15, 2008 #
Dear Brian and family,

Words continue to fail me. I feel profoundly sad for your loss and pray for peace in your minds and hearts. Much love to all of you.

Comment by ANNETTE AUBREY — June 17, 2008 #
To Hillary’s family and extended family:
I was a classmate of Hillary’s and we graduated in June of 1962 from Ft. Lauderdale High. Hillary was very popular,smart,funny and really liked by her classmates. She will be missed. We did get to visit with her at a class reunion a few years back and enjoyed her stories as I think she enjoyed us. Unfortunately we did not have any conversations after she left. I send my deepest sympathy’s to her family and will think of her often and wonder why and if I could have helped. Love Mickey

Comment by Mickey Day — June 18, 2008 #
Dear Brian and Family,

I only recently heard the news of Hilary’s passing. I wish to extend my most heartfelt condolences to you all during this time and have you know that we are all holding you in our hearts and prayers. The list of friends who have written comments here is a testament to that love and caring that have for you all.

Our thoughts are with you.

Joshua Caulkins and Family, Vancouver, BC

Comment by Joshua Caulkins — June 18, 2008 #
I was a former classmate of Hilary’s at Fort Lauderdale High,she was a great gal and will be dearly missed..my love and ,prayers go out to the family Lynda Esner Madison

Comment by Lynda Esner Madison — June 18, 2008 #
Dear Amelia & Family
I never had the pleasure to meet Hilary but through you I found a warmth and kindness she must have shown. May her spirit live on through those she has nurtured & loved.
Thinking of you all with deepest sympathies
With Love Rob & Family

Comment by Rob Hurford — June 23, 2008 #
Dear Brian, Bart, Amelia, Madeline and Clare

I know many days have passed since you have lived with Hilary’s passing away, but I have just heard about these news a few minutes ago. I am still glassy in my eyes.
Hilary and I were classmates at the University of Guelph. I will always remember her for her kindness; always organizing get-togethers at her house; studying for the comprehensive exams and for the free impromptu physiotherapy sessions when I injured my hand playing rugby.
Hilary thank you. Brian and all the kids (who must be big people by now) thank you for allowing us to share and celebrate Hilary’s life. This website will hopefully help many of us, including yourselves, to heal.

Best wishes

Thembela Kepe and Family (Toronto)

Comment by Thembela Kepe — June 25, 2008 #
Dear Sullivan Family – I know Bachan Kaur from Ladies Camp and from Yoga West. I live in Ontario and have read and prayed as the updates came through on the Yoga West Group hub. I hoped and prayed when I first realized your dear mother was missing, and then mourned and prayed when you learned she would not be coming back to you. Sitting here in Ontario, I feel the distance from me to you is great and at the same time very short indeed. With deepest sympathy and wishing you great peace,
Satya Kaur (Paola)

Comment by Satya Kaur (Paola di Paolo) — June 25, 2008 #
Sat Nam,

While Jim and I could not physically be at the funeral and memorial services, we were definitely there in Spirit.

It was that same morning that I took a picture of Hilary to Amma (The Hugging Saint) for blessings on her Soul.

I explained what had happened to Amma and She was very compassionate and blessed the picture of Hilary which I have to offer to the family.

By the Grace of the Divine Mother, Hilary’s journey Home has been paved with Compassion and Universal Love.

Aum Amriteshwaryai Namah
(I bow to the Divine Mother of Immortal Bliss)

Jasvinder Singh “Jazzy” Aul

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Sullivan Fam,

Hugs from Romania. Thank you for the update. I was happy to spend time with you all in Vancouver. I am moved by your statement that this is an opportunity to face our individual and collective darkness and turn our fears into light and love. This is at work in me. I am sending thoughts from over here,

Lukas

Comment by Lukas Huffman — June 30, 2008 #
Many smiles to the the family and to the sky.

I believe in Angels.

- Theo

Comment by Theo Bakker — July 1, 2008 #
I send you, the Sullivans, my deepest sympathy. I cannot imagine what you are going through right now. Hopefully the love and support that your family and friends feel for you will help guide you through this time. Hilary’s spirit lives on in the strong family, community and networks she has built and is a part of.

Comment by Brianne Bovell — July 2, 2008 #
Brian,

I’m so sorry to hear of your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

Sherry Mallory

Comment by Sherry Mallory — July 3, 2008 #
During a series of acupuncture treatments I gave Hilary, we discussed healing and health care. Months later she went out of her way to give me the copy of Grey’s Anatomy that she’d studied in school, but didn’t need anymore. I will always treasure it, and feel so grateful to be friends with her wonderful children.

Comment by Jasbir Kaur — July 3, 2008 #
Dear Hillary,
You have died, left your body.
I am sad,
and at the same time filled with love.
I knew you in love,and that won’t pass,
even when you are on “the other side”.
I am glad to hear your family knows that too.

It was great to know you in your dedication to spreading the knowing of our deep connectedness to life, even beyond death.

It was great to spend some time with you last year at the Constellation Intensive in Munich.

Carl

Comment by Carl van Rossum — July 6, 2008 #
Brian and Family,
My thoughts and prayers continue to be with all of you. The challenges of losing someone so dear are many; may you have many treasured memories to share and keep Hilary’s spirit close.
Jan

Comment by Jan Walbert — July 10, 2008 #
Wahe Guru beautiful Bachan Kaur and Rama Singh and family. Our thoughts and prayers are continually with you all. Jasbir Kaur is down here in Northern California, and has shared the news. Wahe Guru..May God and Guru bless you and your families on this incredible journey.

Sat Nam,
Simrit Kaur, Jai Dev Singh, and Siri Amrit Singh
N. California

Comment by Simrit Kaur — July 11, 2008 #
you are all in my heart and thoughts daily sending love and warm blessings your way as you weave through the spiraling web of grieving and healing together. may your paths be ignited by the strength, beauty and love from the spirit and grace of Hilary.

in grace and warm wishes~*
nicki

Comment by nix — July 12, 2008 #
Dear Sullivan family,

My heart and prayers go out to you all. I know i spent little time with the family, but got to understand how great you all are. Hillary was a fantastic person, a great mother and a great friend. You are a strong family that comes from a very strong mother, i am positive you will all come out of this fine. Hillary made me re-invent my life, just by the way she looked at me. I’m sure she changed many others the same way.

Amelia, i miss you and i hope you are staying strong and continuing to smile. You have a beautiful smile that you just can’t hide. I would love to get in touch with you soon.

It was very nice to meet you all, i am glad you have become, even if small, a piece of my life.

Thinking of you all,
warm wishes,
Joe

Comment by Joe Michalenko — July 14, 2008 #
Brian,

My sincere sympathy on Hilary’s death. I am so sorry and shocked to hear your sad news – and apologies that I did not hear it, and respond, sooner. I cannot imagine what you and the kids have been going through. My hope and my prayer is that you and they will be given the strength you need during this awful time. I am lost for anything to say, but please be assured that you will be in my thoughts and my prayers.

Bart and Clare – my deepest sympathy to you both. And of course also to Amelia and Madeline, whom I have not met.

May you all cherish the love and the memories of Hilary and feel assured of, and consoled by, her ongoing presence in your lives.

Ar dheis Dé go raibh a h-anam (Old Irish blessing: May her soul be at the right hand of God).

Barry

Comment by Barry Kehoe — July 15, 2008 #
Dearest Sullivans:

Today Brian shared with me the news of Hilary’s passing. My heart reaches out to each of you. May her spirit continue to shine on through you all. I will remember her kind words to me over the years and how she valued me as a person when we spoke. May both Hilary and you find peace.
Oren.

Comment by Oren Mizrahi — July 26, 2008 #
i too was a classmate of hilary’s – ft. lauderdale high school- class of 62 – i was so sadden to hear of her passing . hill was a doll .. with a great personality .. she was voted to have the best personality in our class ( we had over 500 in our class ) add to that a great smile and laugh – hilary could laugh and did often – in our junior year, i asked hill to go to junior-senior prom FOUR months ahead of time- she already had a date – in our senior year, i asked hill to go the our junior-senior prom SIX months ahead of time – she again already had a date … hilary was just cutest, neatest and oh so very popular … to the her husband and her children, my prayers are with you all bruce marino

Comment by bruce marino — September 10, 2008 #
Dear Brian, Bart, Amelia, Madeline and Clare,

I’ve been slow at putting up my comments but Hilary has frequently been on my mind since I heard the news from Lynne. At UofG we were looking at communities and how adults integrate new concepts, skills and information into their lives. Hilary was the one who was most interested in how an individual connected to the wider group. She was vivacious, thoughtful and personable. Hilary brought energy to our gatherings and was always conscious of both individual and team energy aspects. Hilary also brought perspective and wisdom – she was a person I looked up to. I remember spending happy times at your home in Guelph and enjoyed your bustling family life. It was always a joy to spend time with Hilary! Wishing you all fortitude. Sincerely, Marielle

Comment by Marielle Rowan — September 14, 2008 #

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